Most of us remain faithful in a relationship or just date one person because we choose to. That’s exactly how most of us look at fidelity – it is a choice. Aside from it being a choice, we also have other reasons why we are committed to being faithful.
Debunking Why We Choose To Remain Faithful
Menelaos Apostelou and Rafaella Panayiotou of the University of Nicosia in Cyprus decided to do research on why people don’t cheat. Both interview 40 men and women about why a person wants to remain faithful. Eliminating duplicate answers, they narrowed it down to 47 reasons. They needed to narrow it down so they got 600 new participants to narrow down the 47 reasons. The top three are:
1. They are satisfied with their relationship.
You’re least likely to cheat if you feel happy and contented in your relationship. It may not be 100% happy all of the time, but you and your significant other fix your issues and then move forward, stronger and more mature. Relationships aren’t perfect, but you know that issues can still be worked on so you remain contented.
2. They do not want to feel guilty.
Guilt is such a hard feeling to bear. In fact, not a lot of people can stand feeling guilty all the time. Because many understand that the feeling of guilt comes with cheating, they would rather remain faithful.
3. It could lead to retaliatory infidelity.
Lastly, a lot of couples in the research were afraid that their spouse might cheat in order to retaliate. Hypothetically, although they have done the deed already, they don’t want to go through the pain of finding out that their partner cheated because they did it first.
Remain Faithful And Work On Your Relationship
Whatever your reason is for staying faithful to your significant other, keep it up. We should all be working on the first item on the list – making sure that our partner is contented. Of course, we cannot force someone to be content, but we can do everything we can to ensure that our relationship is in a good place. For more reviews and relationship tips, read other posts on the blog.