No matter how in sync you are with your current love interest, issues will eventually arise. No relationship is perfect so expect to hit a few bumps on the road every now and then. One common issue that is usually brought up is a partner’s messy relationship history. How do you handle this in a way that won’t affect your relationship negatively?
Your Messy Relationship History Doesn’t Have To Get In The Way Of Love
We have all made mistakes in our lifetime. When we were young, we might have entered into relationships that we should never have. We fell in love with people that were not good for us. It is these decisions that we don’t want to divulge to our current partner because we fear their judgment. So, here’s what you do:
1. Do not change the subject or brush it away.
In most cases, we avoid answering the question or we automatically change the subject. It’s our way of avoiding any conflict. We know that our messy relationship history will get our partner mad, but it’s important for us to avoid doing this.
2. Be honest.
Of course, we feel bad about our past. There may even be some parts that we are not proud of. If the question makes you feel uncomfortable, then be honest about it. Tell your partner that you do not feel easy answering the question because you were hurt badly. Be honest in saying that you would rather discuss the subject when you are ready.
3. Tell your partner that he or she is important.
After being honest, reinforce your feelings for your loved one. Don’t leave him or her hanging. Make sure to tell your partner that he or she is important to you and you never want to compromise the happiness that you have found with him or her.
When chatting with your partner about the question in his or her mind, the tips above will help you formulate your answers. It’s best not to lie about your messy relationship history. You should never deny it either. Work through the question, then tell your partner how you feel about it. For more relationship tips, read other posts on the blog.