We are just humans and no matter how eager we are about finding love or being in love, we will be prone to emotional triggers that will lead to meltdowns. If your partner is experiencing an emotional moment, what should you do?
Learn How To Read Your Partner’s Responses To Emotional Triggers
The best thing to do is to learn about your partner’s emotional triggers and learn how to deal with them. One thing you should not do though is to fight fire with fire. You should approach the situation in a way that’s healthy:
Notice Bodily Reactions
The very first thing that you will notice from your partner would be the bodily reactions to emotional triggers. It could be a change in facial expression, a defensive tilt of the head, or movements in the shoulder areas. Sometimes, it’s as subtle eye movements. When you notice these changes, it is best that you think over what could have triggered these and withdraw from the triggers (i.e. do not pursue the topic, etc.).
Take Note Of Words And Situations That Result To Intense Reactions
There are trigger words, situations, or even locations that bring about painful memories and stir up emotional responses. Take note of these things so that you can avoid emotional meltdowns in the future. Or, you can help your partner get over them – if he or she is willing to work on it, that is. The thing is, you cannot force the issue. You have to wait for your partner to be ready to face them.
Notice The Happenings Before The Emotional Meltdown
Sometimes, you are in a party or even the park, and suddenly your partner’s mood turns sour. You can ask what is wrong but more often than not, you will not get a straight answer. Check the happenings prior to the change in your partner’s behavior. You can deduce from there. Perhaps he or she saw somebody from a painful past?
Hard as it may, you cannot be upset when your partner is having an emotional meltdown. Be the better person who understands and gives comfort. As long as your partner is not destructive, you just have to wait it out until the emotional episode has passed. When he or she has calmed down, then you can have a heart to heart talk. Check out more helpful posts about love and relationships on our blog.