One of the greatest attributes people of both sexes should possess is confidence. It is also one of the most misunderstood, for there are many people who confuse self-confidence with arrogance and the most recent “swagger”. However, they way to tell genuinely confident people from those faking it is by noticing the way they live their life.
Confident People Hardly Ever Do These Things
We often see people with super low self-esteem trying to cover it up by adopting a behavior that’s full or gloating, intimidating others, even belittling their partners and making them feel insecure. But truly confident people wouldn’t be caught dead doing the following things.
#1. They are not attention-seekers.
Those who truly believe in themselves will not be loud; they won’t break their back trying to make a good impression. That’s because they know they can achieve these things just by being their genuine selves.
#2. They don’t constantly compare themselves with others.
A confident person doesn’t need to spend time and energy comparing his/ her achievements or deficiencies with those of others in order to measure his/her success. The benchmark for a confident person is their own dreams and goals, not the achievements or failures of others.
#3. They don’t gossip.
Similarly, confident people are not into the habit of gossiping. If they mention other people, it is usually because they want to praise them or because they are inspired by them, not aiming to diss them behind their back.
#4. They don’t need other people’s permission.
Confident people may consult others, but they are ultimately the ones calling the shots. A confident person may take a friend’s or an expert’s advice into account, but they will proceed any way they see fit because confident people make confident moves.
#5. They make no excuses.
When a confident person acts, he/she is sure of the reasons for his/her decision. This is why they will rarely make an excuse, and this is also why they will take the blame for any mistakes they may have made. You will rarely hear a confident person shifting the blame, as confident people believe that they are the masters of their fate, and they willingly own their own errors, which they see as lessons.
#5. They aren’t quitters.
Confident people are goal-oriented and they have a plan. If their plan fails, instead of quitting they will most likely hone a different one, looking for alternative approaches in order to reach their target.
If you feel that some of the above-mentioned things are behaviors you’d like to adopt, you should make a conscious effort to gain self-esteem and become one of the confident people. Luckily, confidence is something that can be developed once you enter the right frame of mind. As the world-famous painter, Vincent Van Gogh put it: “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”