We use different dating terms on social media under different circumstances. Doing so seems harmless enough. However, when we are talking to or posting about the person we are dating we, commonly, use a very specific dating term that could indicate that something is wrong in our relationship.

Stop Using The Dating Term “This One”

How many times have you referred to the person you’re dating as “this one” on social media? For example, you post a candid shot of you and your date with the caption: “Having dinner with this one.”

There seems to be nothing dangerous about using the term as it refers to a boyfriend, girlfriend or lover. It’s basically a term of endearment. However, James Preece, a celebrity dating coach, thinks otherwise.

Why “This One” Spells Trouble

The dating term “this one” could mean many things depending on how long the couple has been in a relationship. Refer to the circumstances below:

• Early stages of the relationship – it’s alright to use this term when your relationship is young. It’s possible that the couple has not defined the union yet and are, therefore, taking things slow.
• Middle and late stages of the relationship – this is where the term might indicate trouble. When a couple has been together for some time, the person using the term “this one” may be trying to distance himself or herself from the partner.

What To Do About It

When you are in the early stages of your relationship, it’s totally fine to approach things with a lighter mood to keep things moving at a slower pace. You don’t have to label your relationship if you are not ready. But, at some point, you have to if the person is really that important.

On that note, when you have reached this point in your relationship, don’t be afraid to call your partner or refer to your partner as the love of your life, your lover, your boyfriend/girlfriend, or whatever term of endearment you prefer. Don’t be afraid to call your partner by his or her first name too.

If you feel like you are still not ready, it could be a sign of your commitment issues. In this case, you have to seek professional help to get to the root of the issue, solve it, and then move forward with your dating. For more tips about relationships, read more from our blog.