With online dating, we are given so many choices in terms of people we can meet. Because distance and communication blocks don’t serve as obstacles anymore, we can practically meet anyone who’s online. You may not see a problem with this situation, but most online daters actually experience choice paralysis.
Narrow Down Potential Mates To Avoid Choice Paralysis
You may not be familiar with choice paralysis but you have definitely gone through it. Let’s say that you are shopping for new shoes. You go to a department store where you see rows after rows of new shoes. Instead of making up your mind, you take a long time deciding on the best pair for you because you have a lot of choices.
With dating online, it’s definitely the same. You entertain the possibility of finding someone better than your last date, so you don’t settle down. You have a hard time finding true love because you can’t choose. How does one avoid this?
1. Date with purpose.
A lot of online daters think that they are dating with a purpose. They may have, but they don’t stick to it for long. It’s difficult to find a good match when you keep changing your mind about why you’re dating in the first place. Do you want to find someone to settle down with?
2. Make sure your expectations are realistic.
No one will ever be perfect so make sure that your expectations are managed. Yes, it’s okay to have preferences, but don’t allow those biases to dictate who you can and cannot date. For example, you hit it off with one person, but he or she isn’t exactly your cup of tea because he or she doesn’t have blonde hair. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
3. Never compare one person from another.
You what they say, comparison breeds discontentment. Each person you meet online is unique in his or her own way. Comparing one person from another will exacerbate your choice paralysis or trigger it.
Choice paralysis is common but with the three techniques listed, you can avoid it. Narrow down your choices by feeling out a potential date. He or she doesn’t have to tick all of the boxes on your list, remember this. For more tips on dating online, read other posts on the blog.