So, you break up and you feel really down in the dumps, not knowing how to deal with all the heartache you’re feeling – who do you turn to for solace? Your friends? Your family? A therapist? This guy turned to his favorite singer: Rihanna. And it totally worked, as she willingly shared some unexpected love advice to help him get back up on his feet.
The Superstar Gives A Lucky Fan Some Unexpected Love Advice
When @WaladShami, a Palestinian living in the U.S, DMed Rihanna on Twitter asking how to get over his first heartbreak (he told Buzzfeed that his first relationship ended in January), we can safely say he didn’t expect the singer’s heart-warming reply.
The eight-time Grammy Award winner was very much to the point when she gave her fan some sound advice on overcoming a breakup. She wrote: “Just believe that the heartbreak was a gift in itself. Cry if you have to, but it won’t be forever! You will find love again, and it will be even more beautiful! In the meantime enjoy all that YOU are!!!!”
Is Rihanna’s Advice Any Good?
In reality, it’s not just the fact that the multi-platinum recording artist took the time to reply that’s astonishing. It is also that her piece of advice actually makes perfect sense. Let’s break it down and see why.
First of all, Rihanna tells him to change his perspective of the breakup, choosing to see it as a positive thing: “Just believe that the heartbreak was a gift in itself”. Oftentimes, we get caught up in relationships that don’t make us happy. Instead, they can be a hindrance to our personal development, or they can even be toxic. Coming out of a bad relationship can be a blessing in disguise.
Then, she tells her fan to “Cry if you have to, but it won’t be forever!” – which is also great advice. When we come out of a relationship, we are entitled to go through all the stages of a breakup, experience heartache, and weep as much as we need to in order to get it out of our system and move on. What’s important is not to lose sight of the fact that the pain won’t last forever.
That’s why she reassures her fan: “You will find love again, and it will be even more beautiful!”, because losing hope is the worst thing that can happen to anyone. You never know what tomorrow holds, and love may be a lot stronger the second time around.
Rihanna concludes her message with the best bit of all, “In the meantime enjoy all that YOU are!!!!”. There is something liberating in breakups, as much of an oxymoron as it may sound. People actually get the chance to rediscover who they are. Especially those coming from a long-term relationship will get to know themselves under a completely different light as they see their lives from a different angle again. It is important to show yourself love and compassion at these hard times and to appreciate your strengths as you work on your weaknesses.
What more can we say than Rihanna did? Sometimes the best words of wisdom come in the form of some unexpected love advice from our very favorite celebrities. Good job, Rihanna.