Even though we learn from a very early age that lying is bad and, as we grow older, sometimes discover the hard way that it can get us into serious trouble, sometimes keeping secrets from your partner may be your best bet.
Keep These Secrets From Your Partner For A Happier Relationship
Yes, lying is wrong. But keeping some things to ourselves is often the wisest thing we can do both for ourselves and our relationships. These are the cases when you should keep your thoughts to yourself.
#1. You’ve had great sex with other women before her
A person’s sexual history is a very personal matter, as we’ve said before. It’s not something to talk about at length, neither to boast about it nor to lament. What’s worse, when it comes to our S.O there is absolutely no reason to compare her to our exes. Even if we do so in our heads (who doesn’t?), there is absolutely no reason to talk about it with her. Doing so will only make her less confident and it will bring uncertainty and possibly even arguments to your relationship. As far as your girlfriend goes, the famous Barry White song says it all: “You’re the First, the Last, My Everything”.
#2. Someone from your circle dislikes her
Whether there’s a person from your family who doesn’t like your girlfriend or a friend who much preferred your ex, this is one of the most serious secrets you have to keep from your partner. Telling her she’s disliked by someone from your circle will make her worry about it and not be herself around them. Moreover, it’s better to let things flow naturally, and maybe this person’s mind will change in time, as he/she gets to know your girl better.
#3. You dislike someone from her circle
In much the same way as before, there is simply no reason to tell her that you think her brother is a stupid brat or her best friend is annoying; even if she keeps complaining about them. What will happen once you tell her your opinion of them is that she will soon forgive them and forget about their mistakes, but guess what she won’t forget: your slagging them off.
#4. You think her friends are hot
Or even one of her friends. Even if she asks you in a very non-aggressive and casual way, there is not enough stress we can put on the word NO. Never ever tell her that you see her friends as attractive women. Reassure her you only have eyes for her and that you can’t possibly see her friends as more than sisters/friends.
To sum up, even though two of the most important pillars of a relationship are honesty and good communication, in the above-mentioned instances you are excused for keeping these secrets from your partner so as to avoid unnecessary conflict and hurt.